May 9, 2022
Approximately four years ago.... the prognosis for my life was about 2 years. Most people (the doctor said without a blink) die from heart failure who have the same set of conditions. Naturally, I was horrified, and to be honest, disbelieving. Who was HE to tell me when I would expire!?
As it turned out, I have outlived his dire prediction, and though my life has been turned upside down, inside out, and spun round and round till I was sure it was over. However, I have not only survived, but this last Christmas, I caught covid19, and I survived that too! So it goes to show, that doctors are not always 100% right with their view on how long someone has to live!
The main thing I have done, all my life, from as far back as I can remember, is try my best to be in a winning frame of mind! Whatever it took, I always try and maintain a winning state. Therefore, a necessary part of that idea was to try and handle it whenever I found myself in a toxic atmosphere, for whatever reason, I would do whatever it took to sort it out.
I also believe it is very important in relationships, to see it objectively, in terms of one very obvious fact; people lack certain confidences when it comes to the dynamic of love! By that I mean, the green-eyed monster is a part of the picture, when it comes to whether or not a relationship survives. We live in a very competitive world, and there is this fact too: not everyone is squeaky clean when it comes to personal integrity!
So it comes down to this. What can you do, personally, to ensure your mate, partner, wife, husband or date, can feel confident in your intentions as far as they're concerned? What do you think you would feel, if you were with someone that spent the bulk of their time, checkin' out the opposite sex, for example?!
The level of vulnerability is deep when it comes to trust and relationships can falter rather rapidly in the face of this kind of issue!
Look at it this way: if you really like, or even love, the person who you are with, then it matters very much whether or not they can relax into the warmth of trust, and confidence.
Who ever said it would be easy? What you have to work out is this.... is this person someone you care for to the extent that you would work this out, and ensure they can feel comfortable about it. It's not like there's a section in any school or even at home, or college, nor are there books as far as I've ever seen, that cover this kind of topic!
To me it begs the question; what does the dynamic of love bring, or give you? And, what do you bring, or give, to that dynamic? Upon reflection, if you work on this, you may find some enlightening insights into what you want out of life in this direction, and WHY.